If someone hurts you or makes you feel scared or bad in any way, itís important to talk about it
and tell someone what is happening. Tell your parents, a teacher or another adult you can trust.
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The person I am with:
|Is very supportive of the things that I do.|
|Encourages me to try new things.|
|Likes to listen when I have something on my mind|
|Understands that I have my own life, too|
|Is not liked very well by my friends|
|Says I’m too involved in different activities|
|Texts me or calls me all the time|
|Thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice|
|Gets extremely jealous or possessive|
|Accuses me of flirting or cheating|
|Constantly checks up on me or makes me check in|
|Controls what I wear or how I look|
|Tries to control what I do or who I see|
|Tries to keep me from seeing or talking to my family or friends|
|Has big mood swings-gets angry and yells at me one minute, and the next minute is sweet and apologetic|
|Makes me feel nervous or like I’m “walking on eggshells”|
|Puts me down, calls me names or criticizes me|
|Makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or blames me for problems|
|Makes me feel like noone else would want me|
|Threatens to hurt me, my friends or family|
|Threatens to hurt him or herself because of me|
|Threatens to destroy my things|
|Grabs, pushes, shoves, chokes, punches, slaps, holds me down, throws things or hurts me in some way|
|Breaks things or throws things to intimidate me|
|Yells, screams or humiliates me in front of others|
|Pressures or forces me into having sex or going farther than I want to|
Give yourself 1 point for every ďnoĒ you answered to numbers 1-4; 1 point for every ďyesĒ response to numbers 5-8; And 5 points for every ďyesĒ to numbers 9-26.
SCORE 0 POINTS = You got a score of 0? Not to worry-itís a good thing! It sounds like your relationship is on a pretty healthy track. Fostering healthy relationships takes some work-keep it up! Remember that while you may have a healthy relationship, itís possible that a friend of your may not.
SCORE 1 to 2 POINTS = If you scored 1 or 2 points, you may be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that may be unhealthy, but it doesnít necessarily mean they are warning signs. Itís still a good idea to keep an eye on them to make sure there isnít a pattern. The best thing to do is to communicate with your partner and let them know what you like and donít like. Encourage them to do the same. Remember, communication is always a step forward to building a healthy relationship. Itís also good to be informed so that you learn to recognize the warning signs.
SCORE 3 to 4 POINTS = If you scored 3 or 4 points, it sounds like you may be seeing some warning signs of an abusive relationship. Warning signs should never be ignored. Something that starts small can get much worse over time. Relationships are never perfect. They take some work! But in a healthy relationship you wonít find abusive behaviors.
SCORE 5 POINTS = If you scored 5 points or more you are definitely seeing warning signs and may be in an abusive relationship. You donít have to deal with this alone. You can find help to learn about your different options and legal rights.